Spend as much time as necessary identifying your single most unhelpful mental pattern. Use any combination of meditation, journaling, etc., to figure out what harmful or destructive phrase you repeat in your head. Note that it might be a type of statement instead of a fixed set of words.
For example, I assume the worst outcome of almost any scenario (catastrophizing). Because of this, I’ve taught my subconscious over the years that danger abounds, and it should always be on high alert. This has led to numerous chronic physical symptoms resulting from a dysregulated nervous system.
But this is not the way I am. It’s the way I’ve become through habitual action. If I want to change, I need an opposing mental mantra to utilize whenever I succumb to my old ways. I currently use “everything is OK.” It’s part of the script in Ben Ahren’s re-origin neural retraining, and I now say it to myself hundreds of times daily (either out loud or silently). That may seem silly, but it works. The ultimate goal is to make this my new instinctual response. I’m not there yet, but I’m making progress.
I want you to do the same thing. Craft an expression to counter whatever useless crap you tell yourself internally. Remember that habits are the result of repetitive input. Take time to identify your worst mental self-programming and start coding something better.
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It feels good to recognize we do have some control over how we respond to stress of many kinds. I like the idea of a mental mantra. Thanks!